Pronouns

My gender identity is an important part of my life, but when I'm collaborating with music ensembles, my primary focus is always on the music itself and the powerful experience it creates for both performers and audience members.

That said, I understand that it can sometimes feel awkward to ask a composer about their pronouns. To make things clear for everyone while I'm traveling for commissions, performances, or conferences, I use she/they pronouns.

At home, I continue to use he/him pronouns, which I've had my entire life. This decision was part of our family's transition journey, made when our children were very young. Throughout this time, I've had the unwavering support of my wife, and together, we've kept our lines of communication open. My transition is a journey, and I feel privileged to embrace my past while moving forward, recognizing that every step has led me to where I am today.

I am not offended if someone uses a different pronoun by mistake. However, I recognize that many transgender individuals do not have the same privileges I do, and for them, being misgendered can be a deeply hurtful experience. If you are unsure of someone's pronouns, it is always best to ask respectfully, preferably in private.

If you're curious to learn more about my story and gender identity is a relevant part of our workshop or commission discussion, I am an open book and would be happy to share my experiences.